Jun 7, 2014

How I got out of an abusive relationship

Hey ladies!

I just read a tweet from Ruby Wives™, they retweeted that "most problems don't require prayer. Problems require decisions." This reminded me of something that I meant to post earlier today. I felt the urge this morning to share a bit of my story and I really pray that it's God's urging as I don't talk about this ever.

What sparked it was my dream last night and the picture you see to the right. I used to be in an abusive relationship and for years I prayed and prayed that things would get better. Being married I didn't want to become a statistic, and what I believed to be alcoholism was in the picture so I kept telling myself that when He doesn't drink things aren't that bad. If only He'll stop drinking... Well, what do you do when seemingly the answer to your problem and the key to your happiness is in someone else's hand

The truth is, it's never in somebody else's hands. It's always in your control, either through a change of thinking or through some much needed action. In my case I had to leave the relationship, not only to keep my sanity, but to spare my life. How you ask? By deciding that keeping up appearances didn't matter and realizing that it takes 2 for a relationship to work.

Domestic abuse should never be taken lightly and sometimes prayer alone (you should always pray about everything, good and bad) won't do it. In my case I learned that I can pray from a distance. I'm not advocating divorce at all (just to take the easy way out, cause there was nothing easy about my situation and if I'm talking to you, you know). You have to walk away if that's what your gut, your spirit is telling you to do. Coming from a Christian I might get a lot of slack for this but hearing similar testimonies/stories from other Christian ladies confirmed to me what I already knew. The spirit of discernment is HUGE. Pray about everything and ask God to show you clearly what your next step is. Then when He shows/tells you, don't ask Him again just because you didn't like the answer or are too afraid to act on what He told you. He'll carry you to your expected end.

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. (Jer 29:11 KJV)

My happy ending is that my ex realized that he had to do something about his problems (ladies, only God can "fix" him, we can never fix or will for a man to change, regardless of how much you love him) and God allowed me to marry my prince charming, my happily ever after :) A believer that God does bless marriages, and a member of the Happy Wives Club®, I'm grateful that I cared more about my life than what "church folks" would have to say about it. God's opinion of me is the only one that matters.

I hope this helped someone. 

Love & Bless Y'all!

Stay Pretty & Precious, 


  1. Thanks for sharing your story! Your story is powerful and will impact the lives of other women, I know it. =]